Humans are the only species on the Earth who, apart from reproduction, indulge in physical intimacy purely for pleasure. For humans, sex means so much more than birthing a child. Apart from being pleasurable, getting intimate with one’s partner brings with it a host of health benefits such as lowers blood pressure, lowers heart attack risk, lessens pain, improves sleep, relieves stress, improves overall health, and much more. Therefore, the more sexually involved a couple is, the better is their physical and mental wellbeing. However, nowadays a very common problem seems to be ailing men from all walks of life- erectile dysfunction. As common as it is, ED is still extremely dreaded by men. Erectile dysfunction, or impotence as it is widely known, is characterized by a man’s inability to attain or sustain an erection for a number of times even when sexual stimulation is involved.
Men suffering from ED fear embarrassment and ridicule from their peers and hence decide to keep mum on the issue. When men keep fretting on the issue of ED, they try to abstain themselves from intimacy fearing ridicule from their partner. This in turn creates a rift between the couple.
Is Your Man Aging?
With age, the blood vessels in the penile region shrink and narrow down, causing less blood flow into the penis during sexual activity. Taking certain medications to treat cardiovascular issues, blood pressure problems and other such medicines can also make it problematic to attain and sustain an erection.
Although erectile dysfunction is a disorder faced mainly by men aged 40 years and older, it can affect younger men too. The most prevalent cause of ED in young men is anxiety. Getting nervous about getting your partner pregnant, losing your erection while putting a condom on, or stressing about your sexual performance in general creates a negative spiral, which leads to losing an erection.
Once lost, the failure to sustain an erection causes yet more anxiety and stress. Depression, anxiety and stress can also cause ED by reducing libido.
What’s Turning Him Off?
If you and your partner enjoy a healthy sexual life and occasionally your partner’s manhood refuses to rise to the occasion then it mustn’t be ED. For erectile dysfunction to be classified as such, your partner should be unable to attain and sustain an erection for more than half the times you both get intimate.
If your man doesn’t suffer from ED then there must be some other factors getting in the way of your healthy sex life — both physical and psychological. For men, certain medical problems, from heart issues to diabetes to obesity, may lead to erectile dysfunction. The causes of erection problems can also be psychological in nature.
sometimes, what stifles a man’s sex drive may be linked to his partner. Issues such as a woman’s cologne scent, incessant nagging, being too friendly with her partner’s friends, brushing off his emotional issues might lead to a man’s inability to achieve and maintain an erection.
Conversely, when a man is unable to get an erection, the woman also suffers. Partners of men suffering from ED might think that they are no longer attractive or loved in the eyes of their men. But, all hope isn’t lost, as men and women can now sexually satisfy themselves. Instead of popping a pill to cure erectile dysfunction, here are some foolproof methods that will bring the oomph factor back into your lives.
Bend and Reinvent: Try Different Sexual Positions
Getting your manhood to work according to your wish and mood requires some patience and a whole lot of blood supply to it. The basic mechanism with which erection works is by supplying enough blood into the penis to get firm and erect. Although not much study has been done on sexual positions that help increase the blood flow into the penile region, the woman on top position is usually considered effective. Apart from this, it is usually recommended that couples keep things exciting in the bedroom by experimenting with different sexual positions.
Focus on the Journey
When your partner is suffering from erectile dysfunction, it is extremely important to take the emphasis off the actual act of intercourse. One should relax, and focus on the journey, not the end goal. Experts advise that indulging more in foreplay helps a man get in the mood and his manhood raging. Experiment with oral sex or using sex toys or a vibrator to keep things fresh and exciting in the bedroom.
Another important thing is that an erection is not necessary in order to achieve an orgasm. Studies report that with the right sexual stimulation, it is possible to orgasm as long as you have normal skin sensation.
If nothing seems to be working to help your partner attain an erection, it is recommended that your partner makes good lifestyle changes, relieve stress, improves diet, and shed excess weight. Apart from these, your partner can also use vacuum therapy to achieve an erection. This device involves placing an acrylic penile tube over the penis. The tube is connected to a pump that creates a suction, drawing blood into the penis. Once the erection is achieved, an elastic ring is slid from the tube and secured around the base of the penis. This holds the erection in place, making intercourse possible.
Go Fingers and Beyond
Use your fingers, your tongue, and your mouth to provide pleasure to each other. Even though your partner won’t be able to achieve a raging boner (erectile dysfunction), be assured that he may still love the sensation of being handled and loved. Giving each other massages and having showers or baths together will increase the intimacy between you as a couple. To take the excitement a notch higher, consider investing in some sex toys. Vibrating toys and personal massagers can make simple touch feel more interesting and intense, and can also help you bring your partner to orgasm.
Change the Attitude
If your man’s erectile dysfunction is due to psychological issues, the doctor might help him treat those so that getting a boner won’t seem like a herculean task. But if his ED is age-related, then the doctor might prescribe him impotence-treating drugs to help achieve an erection.
However, one misconception that has to be cleared is that good sex life doesn’t necessarily require a rock-hard erection. Getting intimate without penetrative sex might seem like a dampener, but rest assured that you may still be able to enjoy intimacy with your partner.
Depending on the cause of your erectile dysfunction, it may or may not be a permanent state of affairs. Either way, however, keeping active in the sex department – with or without penetration – will be beneficial to your overall health.